It's never too late to work out any kinks in your life as long as you are ready to see to it that you do. A long overdue apology, a lesson you've always wanted to take up, an adventure you always dreamed of but never did make come true. If you understand your mental power that affects you physically as well, you will know that nothing is impossible. Not even for a senior citizen as long as he has a youthful heart.
Some of us go through life as though nothing could be changed since tradition and the laws that govern us say so. But in this almost insignificant life that we lead, especially for those of us who go undetected on the radar of fame and fortune, we live in the shadows of many shapes and sizes. We believe that the system is the right device to control every step we take to make us better people to serve someone higher above us because he has all the power to overrule us. We believe in the creed written in books and parchments to dictate the rights and wrongs because we don't know how to differentiate them with our puny little heads encasing an even punier brain. People, in general, just accept everything as is because most of us feel inadequate to challenge anything we cannot define or understand. In the end, everyone lives miserably because that's the way life goes as they are told to the unfortunate ones. But is this all there is?
Most problems in people's lives remain unresolved because they don't feel the need to. It may seem easier to carry on living the hardships and difficulties but that is a notion as old as anyone could have guessed. Change appears to be illogical and troublesome at the starting point but if only people knew how much more it can improve lives, most people would opt for it than to trundle in the dark, groping for a common ground to stand on.
Any problems can be solved with considerable thought and minimal effort that can actually wipe out irritations, frustrations, anger and disillusionment. Take for instance a couple's dilemma of being married when they discover there is nothing between them that they want to hang on to, or a man's depression working in a dead-end job that is beginning to bear down on him, or a closeted gay's ultimate plight of coming out. The litanies, of course, don't stop there.
The most important thing to do to iron out the creases and wrinkles is to identify the problem. Even if it cannot be discerned at the beginning, a little hint or suggestion of what it could be may be helpful to start with. Once that is done, the next step is to find a solution for it. Our misinformed writ tells us if a problem cannot be figured out immediately then there is no solution for it but we fail to realize that everything takes time. Again, time is relative in terms of what we construe as long or short because ultimately it is our lack of patience and tolerance that excites us to react prematurely. After the resolution come the consequences. This is the hardest part to accept because it changes things, it changes our lives whether we like it or not. If you decide to divorce the man you never loved be prepared to be alone again to fend for yourself. If you want to steer clear from drug abuse you know the journey is just the beginning. If you are ready to live a simpler life then giving up an adulterated job would become easier. To be able to move forward you would have to take the third step of acceptance.
Accepting your inadequacies, your imperfections and defects is a good way to reestablish yourself as the person you've always wanted to be rather than ignoring what is so obviously glaring in your face. Shame or embarrassment isn't an option or an excuse for not owning up to who you really are without the frills of wealth, furor of fashion or flavors of a circumstance. At the end of it all you are really just dust, so what of it?
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