Insight 89: Nothing More to Say

I've met a lot of people who seem to have the same disease everywhere I go. This disease, though not technically one, is the disease of unhappiness, and that's not the worst of it. The worst of it is how people actually want to be unhappy and stay unhappy. From a broken marriage to a dysfunctional family to a sexual identity crisis to all forms of dissatisfactions stemmed out of their very existence.

For those who believe that life on earth is suffering and the rewards are in heaven then to these believers there is nothing more to say. But to those who want to find happiness in this brief life of ours than what are you doing being unhappy all the time?

The common answers I get are 'it's too complicated even to think about it', 'the reality of it makes it impossible', 'there's just no way out of it', and the famous or infamous 'you don't understand'. To all the people who don't want to find a solution than there is nothing else to say.

This woman claims that her life is a mess because she has to work from office to home and be a mother, wife, lover and career woman at the same time. That man says he has to provide for the entire family from his parents to his siblings to his sibling's siblings because they can't provide for themselves. Then there is this boy who wants to please his parents and there are parents who want the best for their children. Of course not forgetting the lovers who want to get married with all the strings attached and the spouses who detest one another and want to severe all the strings. Don't they all have something in common?

What about taking it easy? What about simplifying your life with less accumulation and more compassion? What about communication over accusation? What about forgiveness rather than deep seated hatred? What about compromise? What about acceptance? What about change?

The concept of unhappiness was embedded into our heads from old teachings and traditions that one must take the bitter to get to the sweet. In many aspects, it's call learning or experience. But we tend to forget there is a sweet at the end of it. So many of us remain at the bitter and submit to it instead. So for those who know how to make a fast buck out a bunch of guilt ridden, depressed and pitiful people they will be the ones who claim power and possessions.

All these parasites have to do is to please you and distract you with objects of desire. But you know you will not find happiness even in the prescribed drugs and lavish entertainments, momentary hallucinations and 15 minutes of recognition, the perfection of love and ideals of being human. Ultimately, you can only find your own true happiness by taking the inner journey to get to know yourself. Knowing who you are, what you want in life and what your real passion is.

If you think this is all crap than there is nothing more to say.